Social Happiness
Conversations centered around politics and religion have a unique way of evoking intense emotions. However, the essence of contentment in social interactions isn't solely rooted in emotions. It's more so mental calculations. Your expectations, ideals, and your ability to accept what you cannot change work together to shape your daily habits and choices, influencing the overall trajectory of your life.
This formula, unique to each individual, is a reflection of values and beliefs. Just as no two people are the same, neither are their equations for social happiness.
Within these discussions, there exist two counterproductive behaviors – futile exertion and discomfort. Here, the power of compassion comes into play. Compassion serves as a foundational relationship skill that has the potential to transform how these challenging conversations are navigated.
Compassion, at its core, represents a shift in perspective. Take, for instance, the encounter of an opposing political viewpoint. A compassionate response involves three vital aspects:
Self-Kindness: Acknowledge your emotions with kindness. Embrace your feelings, even if they don't align with the dominant narrative. Grant yourself permission to experience without judgment.
Common Humanity Recognize that your feelings aren't isolated. Others, irrespective of their stance, might share similar emotions. This realization fosters a sense of connection.
Mindfulness: Approach conversations mindfully. Engage with an open mind, observing your thoughts and reactions without immediate judgment. This practice fosters a deeper understanding.
Connecting with genuine emotions emerges a profound reward – a sense of solidarity. It’s been said "I feel you" or "I get you," as a testament to shared human experiences. Empathy ultimately bridges divides by creating a sense of social unity that leaves lingering feels of happiness.
Conversations often polarize while compassion acts as a beacon of hope. It guides us toward discussions that transcend discomfort, enabling us to embrace differing perspectives. So, let's strive to be self-kind, recognize our common humanity, and practice mindfulness.
Consider your most recent challenging conversation. The one where it felt like there were opposing views.
What is a kind statement to acknowledge your feelings, thoughts, or actions specific to this conversation?
What is one commonality you have with others in consideration of your feelings about this conversational experience?
With reflective consideration, did you judge this situation? Why or why not?