If you don’t own a dog, imagine your dog-sitting. Does the dog sleep in the bed with you? Now, enter this dilemma with an opposing view – the person who shares your bed.
What do you do?
The larger part of social happiness isn’t emotion. It’s mental arithmetic. The sum of your expectations, your ideals, and your acceptance of what you can’t change determines everyday habits and choices. It steers wellbeing. Everyone’s sum is unique. Two behaviors will turn the tables on pointless discomfort. A healthy mind set and active listening are fundamental relationship skills. Flourish wellbeing towards happiness by empowering ‘on-demand’ mental shifting.
Back to the dog dilemma. A flexible response is to share your sense of discomfort about the sleeping arrangements with your best friend who owns a dog and not your dog-less sister. A dog owner will likely offer compassion. An expression of shared sadness that comes with broken sleep from a dog. Those without pets abide by an attitude of independence. Two distinct preferences shaped by past experience.
Columbia University psychologist George Bonanno reports when we switch a mind-set based on others preference it requires an ability to tolerate discomfort. This upside to negative emotions provides optimal results in every situation. Some have this skill nailed in to certain roles.
Support experiencing this adversity with the necessary sensory or contextual elements. For instance, an audible conversation in place of texting or within a convenient time to converse with less distractions. Preparing the body for mental-shifting with nervous system calming techniques is another sensory element. Plan to process information following mind-shifting with physical activity.
Flourish social wellbeing with this strategy. Steer yourself towards added pleasures…like dog-sitting or compromising with your bed-mate.
How do your social preferences differ from those you work with?