First mail out those letters sitting on the table, complete the employee evaluation, and prepare for the meeting. Then think about my purpose in this job. Those thoughts became words quickly without hesitation one day. I didn’t even realize I had said them until they were muttered.
Reassuring, focusing words leads to true responsiveness.
Talking to yourself throughout the day is not abnormal. In fact, there is even a term that defines this phenomenon known as private speech. We often learn to do it as kids. Kids talk to themselves while playing. It serves as an important part of their development. As we get older, it allows us to cement memories or visualize what we are thinking. Buy carrots for the soup. Oh those keys..hmmm.
Private speech helps us socially.
When we come up with responses to a person that we met that day, it allows us to use that comeback the next time we see them. I’m swamped – let’s meet at noon. Other times it could be used as a comfort or cheerleader to get us through hard times. You got this. Keep running to the end of this song.
Unfortunately there is also a flip side. There are those moments when we may say something inconsiderate, even harsh toward ourselves. This type of private speech is bound to only lead to shame or guilt, possibly further negative feelings.
Questions to Ask:
- What is one method to stop negative private speech?
- What purpose does it serve?
- How might private speech create a solution in your work role?
Internal awareness can reinforce and create feelings, memories, and external actions. To improve awareness schedule a performance coaching package.