Seven Steps That will Reduce Debilitating Stress and Fear

Seven Steps That will Reduce Debilitating Stress and Fear

Last week a group of women revealed the frustration of relational stress. Following our discussion it was revealed the cause of high stress was poor communication. The computer, cell phone, landline, and various wireless signals are convenient replacements to connecting in person. Each severely lowers body movement, including a stroll or brisk walk to meet a peer within a building or even the body mechanics to drive to a meeting. Anxiety disorders are rising in the United States and social media is one mechanism that is pulling the trigger. 40 million American adults fall into debilitating uncertainty or fear (NIMH). Social norms are to seek visual or audible rewards from screens. Coping weighs on the amount of those rewards are received each day. Emotional processing is quickly steering away from inward reflection for outward expression by catloging feelings in ink, graphic, and other creative mediums. Screens and keyboards are slowly replacing nourishing handwritten thoughts, sketched imagery, and hand-crafted tokens of appreciation to mail by parcel....
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Self-talk Creates Reality

Self-talk Creates Reality

"I will celebrate a Hallmark holiday this weekend. I won't believe it's foolishness and a marketing gimmick for money. I want the day filled with love, however that comes to fruition. That's my self-talk about Valentine's Day. Self talk creates reality. Likely, Valentines Day is a 'water-cooler topic', often one inside the home. If your self talk is easy to persuade then your reality isn't on firm footing. Two years ago I learned about a Stanford professor's theory on the phenomenon of changing our behavior. He used "I will" + "I won't" + "I want" to describe willpower. Our emotional reactions will eventually follow those two words spoken aloud. This becomes the end goal. Do you will, won't, or want a different behavior? Self talk creates reality.   // ...
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5 Ideas To Endure Sitting At A Desk For 8 Hours

5 Ideas To Endure Sitting At A Desk For 8 Hours

As I was whistling-while-I worked today, an alarming thought gave me pause: could I survive sitting eight hours at a desk? Today was a good day because I didn't sit.  I accomplished all of my things-to-do from my list of the things I love-to-do, moving about creatively and solving problems. Without movement, interaction, and creative thinking I lose energy and interest.  Pamela Crooke at social thinking recently shared this about what my brain might weigh-in on this matter: Our brains are pretty resistant when it comes to changing something we’ve done for awhile or something we find pleasurable. In fact, a professor from Stanford recently published a book on willpower and describes the brain as something that operates on the levels of “I will”, “I won’t”, and “I want” (McGonigal, 2012). If you think about behavior change in your own life, this makes a lot of sense. The “I want” part of our brains, or the midbrain, is actively seeking our desires while the...
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Four Reasons A Mini Trampoline Works

Four Reasons A Mini Trampoline Works

Here's one idea to help get past that midday point: trample through it! When most reach for caffeine, sugar or just plain zone out, a mini trampoline (also known as a rebounder) is better than a candy dish for visitors.  It would certainly bring laughter into your work space! Below are four reasons a mini trampoline works in the workplace. Jump and chat. Kick off your pumps and jump. Start jumping contests with co-workers.  Ten jumps or fifteen seconds on the mini-trampoline can circulate your blood to wake up your brain and body, lower stress, and cuts out unnecessary snacking! Katrina manages a team of over sixty employees within an international business. She vows her rebounder is an asset to managing the stress within her day: Outside of many health benefits, rebounding is fun, gives you a sense of freedom and I believe it curtails fatigue and makes me feel extremely energetic and confident.  Most importantly, I find myself smiling while I am...
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Adjust After Traveling

Adjust After Traveling

Do you experience difficulty to adjust after traveling? Below are a few ways I regulate into 'normal' routines. In order to distance from stress with the onset of loneliness, anxiety and fatigue I use the following strategies to adjust after traveling. ROUTINES Being away from home lends to falling out of personalized routine. I've found it effective to ease back into normal routines by adding one patterned task every few days or so.  Prioritize those tasks that waver from routine then focus on one, one day at a time. LONELINESS Traveling often is filled with laughter, fellowship, conversations, and crowds. For those of you who are single, the loneliness following travel seems amplified. In reality those with partners feel lonely, too. My first day back home from the holidays I booked my spring traveling. Create a moment by committing to a future date to shift reflection on a past trip towards anticipation of more fun! ANXIETY One recent trip I spent two weeks away from work to engage with...
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Respond to Anger with Kindness

Respond to Anger with Kindness

We are unique! Our behaviors respond in different ways. At work leaders may tell you to respond to anger with kindness.  Effective communication is often interpreted as kindness. Put down the mental shot gun of using feelings about the subject, current mood, and impressions to achieve this (Kahneman 2011). Begin with understanding one's true nature. We respond with harmony or discord. Understanding one's personality and temperament helps develop healthy relationships. It enhances goal achievement. It enables you to respond to anger with kindness! If knowing one's true nature sounds like a winning solution to you, below is personality and temperament descriptives. Personality A collective of an individual's attitudes, behavioral patterns, emotional responses, social roles and other individual traits that are innate, predisposed and endure over a long period of time. We recharge one of two ways: as an extrovert or an introvert. Extroverts What: they gain their energy by being with other people, find it exhausting to be alone, need people to help them think through their problems,...
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