Bedtime Strategies for 3 Different Sleep Issues

Bedtime Strategies for 3 Different Sleep Issues

Sleep hygiene a significant contributor to performance behaviors. Achieving optimal hygiene requires effort and perseverance. To illustrate how one might achieve sleep below are three stories about three different characters struggling with sleep: C. Want, C. Fear, and C. Loathe. “I want to sleep more.”  C. Want follows trends. Routines include variations of: caffeine to wake or to keep aroused, sugar for quick surges of energy, social media avenues to distract feelings, and typically saying ‘yes’ to everything. The body works naturally by following a biological clock that organizes by daylight patterns. Want an energetic rhythm. Set up necessary sleep hygiene for daytime napping and body-inspired bedtime cues. “I fear over-sleeping.” C. Fear delays going to bed. Routines include variations of: denying fatigue during evening hours, working more after dinner, laying in bed with the laptop or smartphone, and falls asleep on the...
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Master Stress-management With A Multi-Dimensional Approach

Master Stress-management With A Multi-Dimensional Approach

  When walking stairs the body needs to balance on one foot in order to lift the other in motion upward or downward. Eventually both feet land on one surface. Learning how to master taking a step is multi-dimensional. It requires physical, intellectual, and emotional performance. Mastering managing stress is multi-dimensional. The following story illustrates two different reactions to stress: One adult recalled that her father was a friendly, loud, active man who loved to play with her in a very active way when she was small, picking her up and tossing her in the air. Unfortunately, this woman was severely gravitationally insecure, so every time he did this she was terrified, and she hated having him come near her as she did not know when she would be tossed about. Her father felt rejected by her response and eventually gave up interacting with her, resulting in a significant emotional distance between them. She recalled one particular day, when in exasperation, her father told her,...
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Seven Steps That will Reduce Debilitating Stress and Fear

Seven Steps That will Reduce Debilitating Stress and Fear

Last week a group of women revealed the frustration of relational stress. Following our discussion it was revealed the cause of high stress was poor communication. The computer, cell phone, landline, and various wireless signals are convenient replacements to connecting in person. Each severely lowers body movement, including a stroll or brisk walk to meet a peer within a building or even the body mechanics to drive to a meeting. Anxiety disorders are rising in the United States and social media is one mechanism that is pulling the trigger. 40 million American adults fall into debilitating uncertainty or fear (NIMH). Social norms are to seek visual or audible rewards from screens. Coping weighs on the amount of those rewards are received each day. Emotional processing is quickly steering away from inward reflection for outward expression by catloging feelings in ink, graphic, and other creative mediums. Screens and keyboards are slowly replacing nourishing handwritten thoughts, sketched imagery, and hand-crafted tokens of appreciation to mail by parcel....
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An Experiment To Try Beginners Mind

An Experiment To Try Beginners Mind

This last week before going for a hike I had thoughts enter my head about the following: mud, the dog, making my own trail, and poor boots.  Before starting the hike, I had judgments. This anticipatory, automatic notion of how it has been in the past, how it should be, and what will make the car completely muddy were flooding my mind. At that moment, I paused.  Where had my excitement and intent gone? Isn’t the whole purpose of a hike to let go, be out in nature, gently make your own path, and be open to the world around you? I trudged along but that concept of "beginner’s mind" was one with steady reoccurrence later that week. "Beginner’s mind" is when we approach something with curiosity, newness, and openness. We become almost childlike in nature.  As we get older, there appears to be fewer “firsts”. Therefore, we often have these little thoughts or judgments that creep in and almost set the stage of...
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Three Tips For Embracing Uncertainty to Improve Performance

Three Tips For Embracing Uncertainty to Improve Performance

Being open to the messiness of uncertainty is often difficult. Performance behaviors are patterns, routines, and habits. With challenges a natural course of reaction is common. An issue may be some behaviors are causing breaks in relationships, purpose, and health. With time and effort behaviors may change to repair and support teamwork, productivity, and competitive advantages. Performance sharpens by accepting ambiguity. Embracing mystery will build relationships, enhance purpose, and improve skills. Sensations following feelings to what may appear as a fuzzy or messy issue are often uncomfortable. Fear or doubt causes periods of rationalizing perceived risk factors. Sociology and psychologist author Malcolm Gladwell, psychologist Daniel Kahneman, and business woman Arianna Huffington revealed how sensations effect rational. Build Relationships "Good teaching is interactive. It engages the child individually. " Gladwell coined the Stickiness Factor towards a tipping point. Here he identifies building relationships to a child's learning process, which also mimics adult learning styles. "It uses all the senses. It responds to the child...once the advice became...
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Integrity in our Daily Life

Integrity in our Daily Life

Integrity is used to describe a person, place or thing. The WholebeSM process teaches integrity to act as a catalyst to design sensibility. The universal root + definition of Integrity LATIN | integer {intact} being morally upright the state of unity consistent in principal Zig Ziglar said, With integrity you have nothing to fear, nothing to hide. With integrity you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt." Integrity in our daily life At some point in our lives we are tested.  In these moments our integrity is measured.  Integrity in our daily lives can be offensive to others. Examples of this are seen when activists stand by their principal, or artists remain sincere to their mission and are shunned. Our actions are based on our morals and determine our internal integrity. (function(i,s,o,g,r,a,m){i['GoogleAnalyticsObject']=r;i[r]=i[r]||function(){ (i[r].q=i[r].q||[]).push(arguments)},i[r].l=1*new Date();a=s.createElement(o), m=s.getElementsByTagName(o)[0];a.async=1;a.src=g;m.parentNode.insertBefore(a,m) })(window,document,'script','//www.google-analytics.com/analytics.js','ga'); ga('create', 'UA-60245206-1', 'auto'); ga('send', 'pageview'); ...
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Originality In Life

Originality In Life

The universal use of the word "originality" is as a noun. Our WholeBeSM toolkits trigger doing, being, and becoming original. The universal root + definition of originality LATIN | oriri {to rise} novice or beginning, initial individuality of aspect, thought, or imagination distinctiveness of style, and design Ansel Adams once said, "Millions of men have lived to fight, build palaces and boundaries, shape destinies and societies; but the compelling force of all times has been the force of originality and creation profoundly affecting the roots of human spirit." Originality in life Look at a flower. From a seed, a root will rise. Originality is the course a root takes. It's a novice in the dirt. The same is true of a habit. Originality in life is a method to creatively break a tiresome habit with a new one. Creativity grows in new circumstances. Originality in life requires accepting failure. Failure helps to create originality. To learn Design Sensibility for practicing originality in life purchase...
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How to Respectfully Unmask Genuine Feelings in the Workplace

How to Respectfully Unmask Genuine Feelings in the Workplace

Genuine feelings are often masked. This typically occurs when the perceived mood, time or environment may increase stress if honest feedback is shared verses being agreeable. Mood is subjective. When gauging the mood of an individual there's great opportunity of being completely wrong. With practice, time, and awareness to emotional responses there may be a brief, yet genuine exchange in sharing feelings. Skilled active listeners and emotionally healthy individuals are capable of detecting falsehoods in emotional responses. Sensory sensitive human beings are roughly 20% of the population (Acevedo 2014). A human's sense is fascinating. Those who have a difficult time trusting intuitive messages may read facial expressions or follow voice tone inflection to perceive one's mood. Active listeners may identify complexities rise when a genuine mood is masked due to perceived or actual behavior standards. Perceptions may be respectful or deceitful when behavior standards are diverse. When intuition is trusted it alerts apparent differences between reality and falsehood. Improving emotional wellbeing includes improving attention to...
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Overcome Anger, Fear, and Stress One Surprise at a Time

Overcome Anger, Fear, and Stress One Surprise at a Time

Daniel Kahneman, author of Thinking Fast and Slow says, "You are more likely to learn something by finding surprises in your own behavior than by hearing surprising facts about people in general". Anger, fear, stress, or anxiety following a surprise affects every body organ as well as those in the surroundings (Siegal and Bergman, 2006). Surprises may bring out behaviors seeded from the inner 3 year-old.  Some surprises may lead to anger once the results are factored into a time line.  Therefore, it may require motivation to continuously observe performance behaviors. Yet, once in pursuit of the surprise a student to behavior change is born. Questions to Ask: How well do you adapt to surprises? What is a common reaction to a surprise resulting in excessive time to resolve a result? What is one way to change feeling angry due to a surprise? Kahneman recommends the first step to change is learning through observation. Seek the...
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Peers In the Workplace That Are Recovering From Trauma

Peers In the Workplace That Are Recovering From Trauma

Peers in the workplace that are recovering from trauma will have difficulty verbalizing their emotions or even a simple thought (VanderKolk, 2014).  There is an uncertainty about life that confuses as they sort through their trauma.  With time and repetition, their communication patterns will slowly form into crisp, clear, confidant responses. Confidence often comes after strategy. Chess is a great example of strategy. Wikipedia enlightens on the historical game of chess, once called curling: a great deal of strategy and teamwork goes into choosing the ideal path and placement of a stone for each situation, and the skills of the curlers determine how close to the desired result the stone will achieve. Workplace culture words optimize strategies. Teamwork helps but listening and comprehension is key.  A safe environment and it's objects enable trust. Interiors or dwelling spaces communicate a context to influence communication, confidence. 99% Invisible provides a concrete example of this. In his podcast on broken glass, Roman Mars concluded: ...architecture is personal.  The strangest part...
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One Free Performance Resource For The Active Listener

One Free Performance Resource For The Active Listener

Often it is unsettling to listen to the ache in the voice of a peer sharing sorrowful or traumatic news. The pain conveyed in their dilemma may even be palpable. One effective way of coping as an active listener is meditation. The health benefits of meditation continue to flood data supporting how it is a necessary resource for developing brain function. Meditation supports emotional regulation because it functions as a brain support for coping with dilemmas including: pain tolerance, emotional control, feelings of tension, external distractions, fear of unknowns, physical issues, absenteeism, and awareness of genetic diseases. Questions to Ask: How is quiet time incorporated into the work day? What resources may support incorporating meditation into each day? Why might active listening to the mind be a support for reducing...
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What Is In Sight May Distract You

What Is In Sight May Distract You

Try this: stand up, feet together, then close your eyes. Attempt to stay that way as long as your able to tolerate it while taking note to the feelings your body feeds you. Sight uses one of ten body structures in our Autonomic Nervous System (ANS). It maintains and coordinates body functions. Researchers identified how sight effects organs phases of rest and activity. Below is the results (Willbarger and Willbarger 2012). Structure  | Rest & Digest | Fight-Flight Iris (eye muscle)| Pupil constriction | Pupil dilation Heart  | Rate & force decrease | Rate & force increase Stomach  | Increase peristalsis | Reduce peristalsis Lung  | Bronchial muscle contracts | Bronchial muscle relax Small Intestine | Digestion increase | Motility reduce Large Intestine  | Secretion/motility increase | Motility reduce Liver  | Antagonistic to glycogen | Conversion of glycogen ...
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Respond to Anger with Kindness

Respond to Anger with Kindness

We are unique! Our behaviors respond in different ways. At work leaders may tell you to respond to anger with kindness.  Effective communication is often interpreted as kindness. Put down the mental shot gun of using feelings about the subject, current mood, and impressions to achieve this (Kahneman 2011). Begin with understanding one's true nature. We respond with harmony or discord. Understanding one's personality and temperament helps develop healthy relationships. It enhances goal achievement. It enables you to respond to anger with kindness! If knowing one's true nature sounds like a winning solution to you, below is personality and temperament descriptives. Personality A collective of an individual's attitudes, behavioral patterns, emotional responses, social roles and other individual traits that are innate, predisposed and endure over a long period of time. We recharge one of two ways: as an extrovert or an introvert. Extroverts What: they gain their energy by being with other people, find it exhausting to be alone, need people to help them think through their problems,...
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Selflessness as Free Medicine

Selflessness as Free Medicine

When you get stuck in a rut and are so so stressed out how do you feel? At a pivotal point in my life ten years ago my feelings kicked me into action mode. I believed the stride required being alone but chose environments that supported healthy healing to cope through the stress. Loneliness lengthened my healing process. We are relational beings. Once I learned a method to break down self-judgement and shame I slowly invited others into my life. This action taught selflessness. Lets look at how research supports selflessness as free medicine to mind, body, soul. Giving or sharing is an innate feeling (Brown 2003). Like all other behaviors it requires acting on the feeling over time to become a skill, habit, pattern. Sharing space with others improves the immune system, sleep, and circulation (Cohen et. al 2005). Unselfish kindness and warmth towards all people reduces cellular aging and lengthens life (Hoge et. al 2013). Incorporate the fullness of what...
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Why Replacing Rules with Values Replaces Wisdom with Expertise

Why Replacing Rules with Values Replaces Wisdom with Expertise

We kick around the terms wise and expert when claiming a person's character. The word 'Ecclesiastes' means teacher. This biblical book endorses wisdom for a well-lived life.  Wisdom is acquiring knowledge by experiencing and exploring all the resources. 'Expertise' is a claim for being the best at systematic thinking or beliefs. Individuals who are wise aren't necessarily experts. Health claims about products, strategies, or environmental effects aren't all in agreement. One individual may follow their curiosity with discernment to challenge their doubts and beliefs. Another may follow curiosity along one belief, quick to deny entertaining alternatives. Some examples are health supplements, medication, diet, or types of fitness. The art of persuasion is a daily occurrence. Internal conflict is experienced when a behavior is scolded from a resource that is inconsistent in their behavior. Persuasion may break belief, values or trust with residual unsettling feelings. Those who experienced a forceful 'time-out' as a child because they modeled an adult's behavior may relate here. Persuasive...
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Why Carving Is A Heartfelt Emotion

Why Carving Is A Heartfelt Emotion

Carving is a whole body activity. Cavemen used their large muscles to express themselves. To scratch the surface on emotions of survival, fear, and birth was their healing agent. Art Collectors adore carved walls and artifacts. These objects travel in museum exhibits around the globe. A favorite pub of mine has carved names on the walls and tables. Carving is an animated gesture that expresses heartfelt emotion. Handwriting styles, names and graphics offer speculation of what each story is telling. Is it joy? Love? A day of victory? One with fear? Houses need to be built on material recommended based on the geography and soil. It's not always cement! The soil may need wood stilts. Homeowners attracted to different materials that aren't suited for a building site will cause a house to collapse. Following the foundation is the frame. Homeowners can speak up with authority about the textures, graphics, shapes, lighting, color...and so the carving has begun. Unlike the passion expressed by the caveman's full body the homeowner creates safety by planning. Purchasing furniture or selecting fixtures builds...
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Health Significance of the Fall Season

Health Significance of the Fall Season

The fall season begs for the sight of leaves changing color, cool air and sweaters. In warmer climates fall nods to seasonal produce, like pomegranates, brussels sprouts, and pumpkins.  Everywhere, school buses and shorter days hint to a summer gone. The health significance of the fall season lies in transitioning. Change may take form as a battle of self-control. Since transition is adjusting to change like paying heating bills, eating starchy foods, or rising earlier to miss heavy traffic it may bring feelings of fear, anxiety, anger, sadness. Food may be your friend for transitioning to change. Since food is a daily relationship it may be a simple starting point to attend health significance of the fall season. Consider incorporating these three categories of food into your balanced diet.  ALERTING FOODS For those of you that may feel sluggish, energize with crunchy foods (Allen 2012). You know...those afternoons that are difficult to get through because mornings require new adjustments to changes like sunlight, temperature,...
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What Is The Culprit to Behaviors You Want To Stop?

What Is The Culprit to Behaviors You Want To Stop?

History is an incredible occurrence that shapes everything to stand with remarkable uniqueness. How often do you stop to consider something or someone's history? An example of a 'something' are words. Vocabulary history is acquired through selective listening and reading or engrained through cultural norms. The history of common words - like connection, originated with different spelling (connectere) then morph from their homeland (Latin - connexio) into new cultures (English - connect). In consideration of the history of 'someone' a form of history measurement may be through behaviors. Behavior responses may change as demonstrated by designs preferred, the slang spoken, the people or cultures valued for purposeful sharing. Behaviors lead to daily choices and then return as life history. The history of brain growth shares commonalities with the life of the 'something' and 'someone' in this world. Within the brain is the amygdala. It acts to connect feelings and behaviors by tracing mental history for a patterned response. For example, today's scent of pot-roast may continuously bring happiness because...
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Texture May Arouse Emotional Workplace Behaviors

Texture May Arouse Emotional Workplace Behaviors

Texture is full of variance. It has pattern, color, material, and weight. Have you considered using it for shock value? One way to form a memory is by shocking our nervous system. Our response to seeing an appealing texture is to touch it. Something soft but feels like sandpaper will leave a lasting impression. It may sound harsh but in the right context it works! Our brain's plasticity allows us to change unhealthy behaviors.  It first detects, then reacts to sensations. Detection occurs on an unconscious level. Reaction is what fosters a behavior. Texture is just one way to access our millions of neurological functions in pursuit of changing behavior. Texture may intensify emotion within workplace behaviors. Daily, excessive tasks including products like seating, office equipment, even writing tools can cause adversity over time. Texture of fabric weave in clothing, jewelry settings, or skin care products may irritate some. Hugging, holding hands, and primary contact mechanisms at work is a different purview of texture but still...
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