Does your ‘no’ mean no? Does your ‘yes’ mean yes? Oh, I’ve been here. In fact, I just recovered from this. When in the throws of life, action may readily happen before time allows deep thought about the implications. Rest assured, this is normal and happens to us all.
Confusion may set in, but what we choose to do in the midst of it will determine the affect on all of our core aspects. Yet, this spiritual aspect is worth nestling into. No means no; yes means yes.
Several years ago, I wrote down nine questions the book Boundaries nudged me to consider.
- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
- What are legitimate boundaries?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, money?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
- How do boundaries relate to submission?
- Aren’t boundaries selfish?
- Is it difficult for me to hear ‘no’ from other people?
- Do I tend to want to control other people when I don’t get what I want?
Incorporate reflection of these questions while crafting or building something. Pairing reflection with active body movement becomes of value to keep mental gears from spinning aimlessly or spending money in the midst of emotions. The goal is to tune in to the matter; not to fake out what is genuine in heart.
The World Health Organization supports this idea. Their definition of holistic health is “viewing man in his totality within a wide ecological spectrum, and … emphasizing the view that ill health or disease is brought about by an imbalance, or disequilibrium, of man in his total ecological system and not only by the causative agent and pathogenic evolution.”
After you move and think, write your answers in something you may refer to in the future. Allow writing space to add thoughts over time. When I reviewed my answers recently I recognized that path of certainty. It became a habit. Each time it was more quickly put into play.
Practice reinforcing heart-emotion behavior with healthy-active behavior. This fights the lonely confusion of a matter to become a work in progress. The result is a final product: you + craft.
GIG DESIGN | Spirituality