Does your ‘no’ mean no? Does your ‘yes’ mean yes? Oh, I’ve been here. In fact, I just recovered from this. When in the throws of life, action may readily happen before time allows deep thought about the implications. Rest assured, this is normal and happens to us all.
Confusion may set in, but what we choose to do in the midst of it will determine the affect on all of our core aspects. Yet, this spiritual aspect is worth nestling into.
Articulate ‘no’ as a full gestured no and yes as 100 percent yes.
In the book Boundaries the authors offer nine questions to consider.
Questions to Ask:
- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
- What are legitimate boundaries?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, money?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
- How do boundaries relate to submission?
- Aren’t boundaries selfish?
- Is it difficult for me to hear ‘no’ from other people?
- Do I tend to want to control other people when I don’t get what I want?
Incorporate reflection of these questions while doing activities. Pairing reflection with active body movement keeps mental gears and body activity from spinning aimlessly. Tune in to the matter in place of creating false realities to what is genuine in heart.
While moving and contemplating write responses down for future reference. Add thoughts over time while reviewing toward a path of certainty. Over time a habit will form for expedient awareness of a genuine agreement to participate in a task.
The World Health Organization encourages body and mind totality.
Their definition of holistic health is “viewing man in his totality within a wide ecological spectrum, and … emphasizing the view that ill health or disease is brought about by an imbalance, or disequilibrium, of man in his total ecological system and not only by the causative agent and pathogenic evolution.”
GIG DESIGN | Spirituality