Imagine working with a colleague that opposes your political beliefs. What do you do?
The larger part of social happiness isn’t emotion. It’s mental arithmetic. The sum of your expectations, your ideals, and your acceptance of what you can’t change determines everyday habits and choices. This formula steers performance.
Everyone’s sum is unique.
Two opposing behaviors may turn a situation into pointless discomfort. Compassion and active listening are fundamental relationship skills. Performance flourishes into empowerment by mental shifting.
A flexible response to opposing political views may be to share feelings of discomfort. The time discussing politics replaces discussing work objectives or team-building while at work. Directing attention on feelings that oppose productive work relationships may offer a compassionate response.
Switch the mind-set from what isn’t relatable to what is.
Columbia University psychologist George Bonanno reports when we switch a mind-set based on others preference it requires an ability to tolerate discomfort. This upside to negative emotions provides optimal results in every situation. Some nail this skill but typically only in one or two of their life roles.
Questions to Ask:
- How do your social preferences differ from those you work with?
- What communication style (texting, email, in-person) is the common behavior standard at work?
- What personal behavior standards conflict with workplace behavior standards?
Support experiencing this adversity with the necessary sensory or contextual elements. For instance, an audible conversation in place of texting or within a convenient time to converse with less distractions. Preparing the body for mental-shifting with nervous system calming techniques is another sensory element. Plan to process information following mind-shifting with physical activity.