How To Thrive When You Are Hypersensitive to Environments

How To Thrive When You Are Hypersensitive to Environments

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Does just thinking about being certain places exhaust you? If each has similar traits then you might be hypersensitive to environments. Knowing your sensory needs simplifies solving the connect between design factors and excelling performance. When a person is hypersensitive to an environment the most noticeable response will be avoidance. Interior design factors effecting the hypersensitive, including furnishing placement and object purposes, often may be modified. Also, there are tactics to mentally or physically prepare for these circumstances. Our hypersensitive community can reduce their anxiety and thrive once they understand how to manage their sensitivities. [caption id="attachment_7053" align="alignright" width="300"] Alignment Framework | Paolo Ragonethe[/caption] This feasibility study is specific to children's reaction to a dentist office. It builds the foundational understanding an environment contributes to what seems like an uncontrollable behavior. Wired.com shared dentist offices…
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How to Use Your Voice When No One is Listening

How to Use Your Voice When No One is Listening

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One common source of stress is not being heard. This takes form in many ways but the outcome is often similar: a blow to morale. What's the next step past that initial sting? Below are words, actions, and lifestyle strategies following the biological breakdown of how to you use your voice when no one is listening. ICEBERG EFFECT It's that time of year when we get together to celebrate a milestone birthday in the family. I'm the little sister to two siblings but I'm also forty-three. Active listening wasn't a skill we were taught by our parents, so the relational dynamics weigh to the side of pecking order verses as adults with commonalities when we engage in conversation. This is a classic 'Iceberg Effect'. According to the iceberg metaphor our…
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How Stress Spreads and Proven Methods to Stop It

How Stress Spreads and Proven Methods to Stop It

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Two employees walk into the office one regularly-scheduled work day morning. They respectfully go their separate desks, set down their belongings but cling to the  unnerving chaos experienced moments before work. Here are two cases of three people revealing how stress may spread along with methods to stop it. What are employees to do with those intangible belongings stuck to their brains and bones? I'm guessing most of you are thinking "they need to get over it." Fact is mental disorders are climbing far above heart conditions, cancer, and diabetes. Stress is reality. From the moment we came out of our mother's wombs we experienced stress from newness: bright lights, louder sounds and alarming sights...eeeks! Then the touch of a stranger? "Poor baby," isn't a helpful approach. Current points of…
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Values Far Exceed Predictability When Without A Smartphone

Values Far Exceed Predictability When Without A Smartphone

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People spend a great deal of time in front of a television, computer, and cell phones.  I’ve been cutting down on the usage of technology for the last few weeks, but find myself craving to use my smartphone.  When it was unavailable for 2 weeks something felt like it was missing. Land line phones, emails and others smartphones allowed me to go about my everyday life. Rarely did I complain. It was odd that people I see daily questioned when I would get my smartphone back. It was also an inconvenience for those frequent smartphone correspondents.  Not knowing what time I’d be home for dinner, whether the dog had been walked, or to plan for activities required more organization. A plan was necessary for those moments we were out of touch…
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Communication Problems at Work

Communication Problems at Work

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"That's it! My sister and I are on a sabbatical!" These words were spoken over the phone the other day by someone near to my heart.  They were hard words to hear considering both persons are absolutely lovely. With that being said, we have all had times in our life where relationships have been toxic and the need for a timeout has been in order. Peers in the workplace bring diversity. It's difficult to put a timeout in place with them. Communication problems at work requires quick solutions for meeting common goals.  So how do you bring about healthy communication following a problem?   Answering these questions may help: Am I able to listen or am I still too heated? Am I aware of my tone? Aware of my language? Aware…
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Active Listening in Cultural Differences

Active Listening in Cultural Differences

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Right in the the middle of an important task that has a deadline you get interrupted by your Fellow. What do you do? This scenario begs for the least amount of listening. Some may just use a body gesture, like a hand in the air without diverting the eyes from task. This action isn't a normal listening behavior. Active listening in cultural differences fosters healthy relationships. C'mon, giving the hand is on the selfish side of relaying information. (Grohol 2013) One might hope those that interrupt would pause in anticipation for a body gesture of approval. This isn't always the case. This is a social dilemma which happens in a variety of occupational scenarios. Let's look at an example of cultural diversity when in play - like a break from work…
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Talking to Yourself

Talking to Yourself

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First mail out those letters sitting on the table, make dinner, and take the dog out. Then think about the rest of my life. Those thoughts became words quickly without hesitation one day. I didn’t even realize I had said them until they were muttered. They were reassuring, focusing words that lead to true responsiveness. Talking to yourself throughout our day is not abnormal. In fact, there is even a term that defines this phenomenon known as private speech. We often learn to do it as kids. Kids talk to themselves while playing.  It serves as an important part of their development. As we get older, it allows us to cement memories or visualize what we are thinking. Buy carrots for the soup. Oh those keys..hmmm. Sometimes it helps us socially.  When we come up with…
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When Asking a Question

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I found myself in several situations this past week where I paused after speaking with someone. Suddenly, I wanted to know their story.  How they overcame and where they persevered.  Often, it seems a snapshot is all we get.  Pausing before venturing into deeper waters, sensitive to their time or hardships. I have been told that I ask questions others may not. For example, “What’s in your hands?” to the man in front of me at lunch.  “What is home to you?” to a friend moving across the country. Initially, I think of the long line of slightly nosey ladies in our family and the people standing next to them that shake their head slowly.  But these questions have power. So where is the line drawn between nosey and curious in relationships? Like so many areas…
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Communicate Face to Face

Communicate Face to Face

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A psychologist wrote about the healthy aspect of a parent not listening to every kiddo's imaginative story-telling moments. He said the brain functions best when it isn't multi-tasking. Children have a lot of stories that take time away from the to-do list. Kids and parents often have the same voice inclinations, too. Mistaking siblings voices may occur when in a different room or by phone. In communication, do you easily recognize people's voices? Our ear's physiology is fascinating. It holds the smallest bone in the body. Sound separates into vibrations by hair fiber movement. Each ear has a relay station that splits into two pathway's to filter sounds. The paths cross hemispheres to recognize, distinguish, and filter auditory information. Sound localization, pattern recognition, timing, and balance are main processes of the ear.…
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Two Behaviors Will Turn The Tables On Pointless Discomfort

Two Behaviors Will Turn The Tables On Pointless Discomfort

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If you don't own a dog, imagine your dog-sitting. Does the dog sleep in the bed with you? Now, enter this dilemma with an opposing view - the person who shares your bed. What do you do? The larger part of social happiness isn't emotion. It's mental arithmetic. The sum of your expectations, your ideals, and your acceptance of what you can't change determines everyday habits and choices. It steers wellbeing. Everyone's sum is unique.  Two behaviors will turn the tables on pointless discomfort. A healthy mind set and active listening are fundamental relationship skills. Flourish wellbeing towards happiness by empowering 'on-demand' mental shifting. Back to the dog dilemma. A flexible response is to share your sense of discomfort about the sleeping arrangements with your best friend who owns a dog and not…
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Role Models

Role Models

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Do you have a sense that you are in the right role? A role model sets measurable standards, yet your set of skills and experiences prepare you for a specific role. To start, consider what common values you have with your friends. Then consider who you enjoy spending your leisure time with the most. Those who reinvigorate you are fulfilling your genuine leisure role. Now, how does a leisure role show as healthy or harmful? There is a story of a king who went to his garden one morning, only to find everything withered and dying. He asked the oak tree that stood near the gate what the trouble was.  The oak said it was tired of life and determined to die because it was not tall and beautiful like the pine tree. The pine was troubled because…
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Write, Speak, Or Draw to Reduce Stress

Write, Speak, Or Draw to Reduce Stress

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Last week a group of women I socialize with began to discuss relational stress. By sharing our experiences, we learned the cause of our core stress was poor communication. The countless ways to immediately contact one another today including the computer, cell phone, landline, and various wireless signals are taking the place of connecting in person. Our conversation covered how we move less from one floor to another within a building, a home, or a drive across town. Rarely do we use our pencils, paper, and scissors. Most of us turn to social media to respond to others. Anxiety is rising and social media is one mechanism that is pulling the trigger. 40 million American adults fall into debilitating uncertainty or fear (NIMH). In the midst of our feelings we…
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Enjoyable Group Activities

Enjoyable Group Activities

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Have you ever noticed that most characters in TV shows and movies are extroverts?  Think about it.  Do you recall a character that constantly sought time alone? However, not everyone has the same idea about what enjoyable group activities are.  So where does that leave us?  Life is a balance of solidarity and socializing.  How we handle both, can affect all aspects of our lives dramatically. When are you the happiest?   Consider your roles at home, work and in the community. Perhaps it's difficult to handle challenging activities in a group or transitioning from alone to group tasks. Don't worry, there are healthy ways to enjoy time in a social setting.  Our wellbeing services focus on transitioning between being alone, with people, diverse tasks, and environments. Enjoyable group activities with some people may be the challenge.  We understand…
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Provoke Approval With This Assuring Body Posture

Provoke Approval With This Assuring Body Posture

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Have you lived within a culture that isn't your own? Over the years I've been personally challenged through unfamiliar cultures. A few examples of cultures I need to adapt to includes an indian reservation, farming community, tourist town, and middle-eastern religions. Beyond the smells, language or customs just transitioning from a geographical move is tough! Overcoming adversity presents two choices: be open to it, or deny it. Choosing which path is the power that ultimately steers life health. Forethought is a natural impulse that digs into personal values, morals, and beliefs. That of openness or denial begins the body, mind and spirit path. Even choosing an openness to drink from a new water source goest through the natural impulse of forethought. It subjects the digestive system to work through a new…
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Six Ways to Be Brave With Siblings

Six Ways to Be Brave With Siblings

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The sibling bond is instrumental to health. According to the Prevention Research Center: in childhood and adolescence, siblings spend considerable time together, and siblings' characteristics and sibling dynamics substantially influence developmental trajectories and outcomes. A friendly acquaintance is much more tolerable than a sibling acquaintance. There's no history of who made dad angry! So, how do you get to know your siblings? There may be an early relationship history with less contact once in college. I've been utterly appalled to witness the power of family maliciousness at times of trauma or illness. Standing over a loved one being aggressive or violent is poor support during hospitalization. Are you resentful of your sibling? A worthwhile mental health question is: am I holding a grudge? Make a list to confess the anger. I keep an ongoing list then cross…
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Three Steps To Skyrocket Happiness When the Forbidden Brings Tension

Three Steps To Skyrocket Happiness When the Forbidden Brings Tension

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Sharing space with certain 'others' (you know who) may provoke alarm. Three steps to skyrocket the 'happy' feelings in the midst of forbidden or tense relationship moments are: listen, sense, share. Active listening is a full body skill. Clear the mind, look at the speaker, posture the body in a receiving gesture. Observe the body's sensory responses. Which sense is reacting most to this experience? What are the internal distractions? What are the external distractions? Sharing formulates conclusions towards happy feelings by sifting the objective from the subjective. Write, draw or share with someone the details about impressionable moments. Then go back to the first threatening source with what you learned from listening and observing the full experience. These simple, yet powerful actions keep the happiness door open into relationships bound towards maturity.…
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How to Empower Your Destiny by Seizing These Helpless Moments

How to Empower Your Destiny by Seizing These Helpless Moments

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I love receiving packages in the mail.  With every opened package it feels like an undocumented holiday.  This last week my laptop was fixed and shipped back to me thus making last Wednesday officially Laptop Day for me! Thank goodness the delivery persons truly did handle my laptop with care so that it could be returned safely from across the country. This last week, I heard someone mention that we should handle all living things with care – including ourselves. This sounded so very simple. From the get-go the social golden rule was to always say “please”.  Being mindful of this throughout the week, I realized how much deeper it was than that. When the alarm went off, I wanted to sleep in and I initially thought Wow, second time this week! Twice during…
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People, Places, Things: Be Exposed to the Vibrant

People, Places, Things: Be Exposed to the Vibrant

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A good friend of mine called me to recite her new health goals.  As suspected, they were the the same ones I've heard over the past few years: lose weight, save more, be nicer to her boyfriend. I completely support her in all of these but I had to wonder, why is it that we (certainly myself included!) focus intently on the same things and seemingly end up right where we started? Life is filled with several natural new beginnings. Feelings of renewal and focus, a chance to start anew and have a sense of a fresh clean slate occur often. We are creatures of habit. Many of the things we are interested in changing are engrained within our environment we surround ourselves in. What happens around us becomes a…
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Everyday Functioning For Kids and Adults With Sensory Concerns

Everyday Functioning For Kids and Adults With Sensory Concerns

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Life is constantly changing around us.  Things like the temperature, lighting, and noises are always being processed.  Although a lot of this happens on an autonomic level, for persons with sensory processing concerns, standing still can be overwhelming and effect everyday function. Occupational therapist Catherine Armani-Munn, MS OTR/L explores the challenges of everyday functioning for kids and adults with sensory concerns. Bethany: What year & where did you graduate? Catherine: I graduated from Keuka College in a 5 yr masters program.  My undergrad was in Occupational Science and in 2010 I graduated with my masters in Occupational Therapy. I also got a minor in ASL (American Sign Language) in college which has helped me a lot in the field, especially working with the autism population. Bethany: What is  your background and…
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Contribute to the Wellbeing in Your Community

Contribute to the Wellbeing in Your Community

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Wellbeing is similar to a life novel. Each year is a new chapter. Every experience is etched into our brain's fibers. The nervous system relies on each etching like the blind depend on brail to read. This flow - experience, brain processing, behavior output by the nervous system - creates a life rhythm. As life plays out it artfully ascends into metaphors or teachable moments for onlookers. Self-awareness may rattle that life rhythm when a discovery parallels one's own circumstances. Do you document your life experiences? Family trees, journaling, painting, scrapbooking only name a few ways people document their joy and pain. How might your experiences be connected to past family members? Is your ancestries hardship or joy etched into your being? There's beauty to a statuesque pile of journals…
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