Be Willing to Get Messy In Life

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Twenty-four hours before buying an airline ticket to return back to my home state, a wise man shared a valuable message. Words I needed to hear that moment. Essentially, be willing to get messy in life to gain in life. Performance building is to step forward into unknowns. Fearful moments help us build relationships, share our purpose, and become our best self. The following is a brief summary how our senses trigger in the messiness of life:

Build Relationships

“Good teaching is interactive. It engages the child individually. ” Malcolm Gladwell coined the Stickiness Factor towards a tipping point. Here he identifies building relationships to a child’s learning process (which is similar to adult’s). “It uses all the senses. It responds to the child…once the advice became practical and personal, it became memorable intellectually and physically.” Interaction at it’s best engages all sensory functions. Those unaware of their sensory issues miss the stickiness factor to build muscle-memory responses that help them become better communicators.

Share your Purpose

“One of the most significant discoveries of cognitive psychologists in recent decades is that switching from one task to another is effortful, especially under time pressure…the most effortful forms of slow thinking are those that require you to think fast.” Under life pressures – like personal, work stress or momentary traumas – the body naturally slows mental processing. Daniel Kahneman informs that adding time pressure intensifies this slowing down process. Modulating sensory factors is a support system to effortful thinking through life pressures.

Becoming your Best

Arianna Huffington learned that, “any tool that can increase our self-awareness and ability to listen and be in the moment is invaluable.” Following her personal trauma, she researched and shared what she found “wellbeing” to be. She shares this in her book, ‘Thrive’. The leading question she asks is, “What is a good life?” Self-awarenss includes internally listening to personal values, beliefs, body function and structure. Sensory modulation is a natural tool that improves internal listening skills. Together they open life’s moments and propel you in a direction of becoming your best.

When I bought that airline ticket I opened the door to a messy life: four weeks living with and caring for my Dad as he recovered from open heart surgery. While I choose life I’m keeping my stress level low. Below are interiors and products similar to what’s modulating my sensory seeking needs.

DESIGN^sensory craving | kitchen design to achieve your best self if with an insatiable drive for enhanced sensory experiences
DESIGN^interceptive | objects that encourage breathe in times of difficulty
DESIGN^body position | movement through space calms nerves with this Rocking-Chair


Gladwell, M. (2002). The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference. New York, NY: Back Bay Books.
Kahneman, D. (2011). Thinking, Fast and Slow. New York, NY: Farrar, Straus and Giroux.
Huffington, A. (2014) Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom and Wonder. New York, NY: Harmony.

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